The Art of Internet Dating:
The Definitive Practical Guide
by David L Jones Preying on the un-expectant
There are a great number of people on the Internet who are single and
looking, but either don't know what Internet dating is, don't know how
to use it, or are just reluctant to use it. These people are not
off-limits to your searching, there are ways to find them and persuade
them into a date!
This can be a huge untapped resource for serious Internet daters.
These people will be surprised to hear from you, and as such are often
very keen to try something new. A nice side benefit is that there is no
competition - the thorn in the side of every Internet dater.
How do you find these people and contact them I hear you ask? There
are a few avenues available to you:
ICQ
ICQ is a great way to search for people. There are millions of people
using it, and the "ICQ Whitepages" www.icq.com/whitepages
search facility allows you to search for people based on similar
criteria you will find on personals sites. You can search by
geographical location, age, sex, occupation, and even interests. You can
get a list of search results and it will even tell you who is online at
that very instant. You can then send them an instant-message or chat
request.
It's best to send an instant-message first, as it is considered bad
ICQ etiquette to send uninvited chat requests.
The key to using this method for guys is to be polite and nice. Women
on ICQ can often get bombarded with cyber sex requests, and guys just
asking if they have a picture. If you are polite, introduce yourself and
ask nicely if they would like to chat, then you stand a much better
chance of getting a reply. Don't come on strong via ICQ, people will
often just ignore you.
Some tips:
· Once you have developed a rapport, don't forget to add them to your
list, and get them to add you. You don't want to lose them. Ask nicely
before adding them though.
· Don't sound too desperate, if they have to leave then thank them for
the chat and let them go. They will be on again, hopefully.
· Find out when they are typically on, and let them know when you are
on.
· Add personal information to their ICQ "profile" or document
it elsewhere.
· Ensure that you backup your ICQ list and history information. One
hard drive crash can mean the loss of years worth of contacts!
· Ensure that you save any chats to a text file so you have a record of
everything.
· Messages are automatically saved in an archive, make sure you check
it before you chat to them again to find out where you left off.
· ICQ has excellent documentation features, get to know them and make
use of them.
Work email
Never underestimate when and were you can meet people using the
Internet. It doesn't always have to be via the Internet chat rooms and
personal sites as such. It can just as easily be randomly via your email
at work - emailing customers, clients, work colleagues etc.
If someone sounds nice then why not try sending a nice "thank
you" email to someone who has helped you out. While you are at it,
try flirting a bit to see if you get a reciprocal response. Obviously it
will be difficult to find out much, if any information about them
initially, but why not take a chance and ask them out for lunch?
If you have their mobile number then how about sending an SMS
message? You never know where it might lead.
Newsgroups
Newsgroups are the place to find like-minded people. There are tens of
thousands of newsgroups on almost every conceivable topic. If you want
to meet people with similar interests, then subscribe to a newsgroup and
scan though the messages. To do this you will need a newsreader program.
Your ISP will be able to tell you about how to set this up and connect
to a news server.
Another way to find people via newsgroups is to search through the
newsgroup archives at groups.google.com. Google also allows you to read and post messages without a newsreader
program. You can do an "advanced search" for various topics,
groups and messages. Newsreader programs have more flexibility however.
Look for messages from your target group, and by checking their email
address you can get an idea of which country they are from. Send them an
email and see what happens. Obviously keep your email contained to the
topic of the newsgroup until you feel confident enough to ask them out.
This is a long shot, but you never know your luck on the vast world
of the Internet.
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